You meet a new person. Everything clicks, and sometimes it can happen quickly. I quite like the term fast friends; we don’t have that term in Danish (yet). For that to happen, both parties have probably put their most accessible side forward, the good side. And sometimes that is enough, and you can go back and forth for a while. But at some point, it will be clear that the motion can’t be sustained; you can only go so far. Depending on the speed, it can take anywhere between minutes to decades to see how far you can go. But even if the gears don’t fit perfectly together, it is still possible to keep moving; it might be a bit noisy and uneven, but still. This can be said for potential friends and/or partners. But probably shouldn’t be said. BECAUSE PEOPLE ARE NOT TWO DIMENSIONAL GEARS. Us humans have thousands of moving parts, and we can change and adapt over time. But sometimes it feels a bit like the illustration above, that’s why I made it and shared it here. Makes sense?
“All models are wrong, some are useful” as George E. P. Box famously put it.
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